Helping you improve the Relationship you have with yourself & others


I am on leave until January 2018 and not taking on any clients, please use the site as a resource in the meantime


I work with a range of individuals who are either single or currently in a relationship helping them overcome issues and problems such as anxiety, depression, dependency, reactivity, separation, divorce and addictions so they can regain their sense of health and well being.  Individual counselling can help to remove the emotional blocks and hurdles that prevent us getting closer to another human being whilst strengthening the love and esteem we feel towards ourselves.

Maybe you are single and looking to break out from previous hurtful relationship patterns; individual counselling can help you find new ways of relating to yourself and others by healing from past relationship difficulties in childhood and adult life.  Something from the past may be being stirred up or triggered in your current relationships creating a negative pattern that is hard to break free from. 

If this sounds like what you are going through consider Individual Counselling with me at EF Counselling.  Read on to see how a common problem such as anxiety can impact on relationships and day to day living.

Is Anxiety affecting your Relationships?

Not too ill to stop functioning but feeling more anxious every day?

As human beings we all worry and experience stress as an everyday part of life but what about when we notice the worrying is getting more excessive and starting to impact on our enjoyment of everyday living?

Are you worrying needlessly even if there isn't a specific problem?

Do you have a vague sense of fear or feeling that things will turn out for the worst?

Are you experiencing any physical symptoms of anxiety such as; broken sleep, uneven or shallow breathing, a sick feeling in your tummy or lack of concentration?

People can experience varying degrees of Anxiety at any time in their life although it tends to affect young people in their late teens and twenties and women more so than men.

You may be someone who has always worried a bit more than other people but there is something different about anxiety; it is when the worrying becomes more pronounced even when there may not be a triggering event or cause.

Low level anxiety or generalised anxiety disorder is quite common and although uncomfortable people can manage to carry on as before and function on a daily basis.

Sometimes people experience depression alongside the anxiety as sleeplessness and irritability and feeling on edge a lot of the time takes its toll.

Relationships can suffer as the person with anxiety may withdraw from social contact or find it difficult to explain to their partner what is happening to them.

More severe forms of Anxiety include panic disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder and social anxiety disorder.

Counselling can be an effective short term treatment for Anxiety and be safely used either as a support to medication or as an alternative.

The following 10 treatment steps can be followed to help you gain relief from this debilitating disorder.

  • Your counsellor will assess the severity of the anxiety by asking you about the symptoms
  • Help you to understand the context of the anxiety, why now at this point in your life?
  • Your counsellor will help to reduce the symptoms you are experiencing
  • You will be given tools and strategies to manage and monitor your own symptoms when they arise
  • Identifying negative thought patterns like black & white thinking, self-criticism & always thinking the worst will happen.
  • Exploring some of the feelings and beliefs you have about yourself that help keep these negative thoughts going.
  • Changing some of these core beliefs about yourself by replacing them with healthy, positive attitudes.
  • Practising new ways of asserting yourself & your needs
  • Using the experience of anxiety as a way of making some changes in your life
  • Understanding that anxiety is our body's early warning system telling us something is not quite right with us and our world.




Remember Counselling can help

Counselling with a trained therapist can help you with relationship and emotional issues whilst supporting you through testing times.

If you are feeling alone or overwhelmed by life, counselling can support you and help you to unravel and understand your responses and reactions.

Getting help can be a catalyst for change or can help you adjust to or accept challenging circumstances.


Counselling provides

Counselling provides a sanctuary for you in times of challenge and change. It's a safe place where you can share your experiences, thoughts and feelings with another human being who will not judge you.

At EF Counselling my aim is to provide safe, supportive and confidential counselling in a peaceful setting allowing you to explore who you have been, who you are and who you may want to be.


What can I hope to gain?

  • Faster Improvement – quicker results than struggling alone
  • Personal Growth – a deeper understanding of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour
  • Get unstuck – an awareness of any repeating patterns or behaviours in your life
  • A shared perspective – feel validated and supported in your efforts
  • Be empowered – learn to manage your symptoms to avoid relapse
  • Structured healing – guidance towards your goals