Who I Work With

I work with a range of couples who are married, de-facto or planning to live together/get married and people who are in the process of separating.  My experience includes working with clients from a range of different cultures, backgrounds and sexual orientations.  My work with individuals includes working with people who are in a relationship, clients who are single and people who have other concerns such as wanting to heal a traumatic past.  I hold a DCSI clearance for working with clients younger than 17 years of age.  My clients bring all sorts of concerns and issues to the Counselling Sessions;  see if any of the following relate to you and what you are experiencing

Individuals

  • I feel like I can't get close to anyone as I've been hurt by love in the past; I tend to sabotage my relationships to avoid being rejected by the other person
  • My fear is that I will never meet 'the one' or the 'right person'; relationships have been a disappointment to me
  • I keep on repeating the same mistakes in my relationships and I don't know how to start behaving differently
  • I feel betrayed and abandoned after my partner left me for another person
  • I am so lonely but don't know how to go about meeting new people
  • I find it hard to commit to one person and fear if I get too close I will feel trapped
  • My previous partner was controlling which scared me and I am very wary of entering another relationship
  • How can I be true to myself and in a relationship at the same time; I just can't get the balance right

Individuals in a relationship

  • I feel so alone and lonely even though I'm in a relationship as I tend to withdraw and walk away during an argument
  • I get clingy and jealous when my partner goes out and spends time with other people
  • I don't trust my partner anymore and I think they are having an affair
  • I really don't like conflict so I tend to give into my partner when I should be standing my ground
  • I am scared my partner is going to leave me so I don't like to question their behaviour
  • I just can't seem to stop picking fights over trivial things
  • I am frustrated and angry all the time as I don't feel heard
  • I don't feel special or important to my partner anymore
  • I would like more sex but my partner doesn't seem interested
  • I sometimes catch myself sounding like my parents and I don't want to repeat their relationship mistakes
  • I'm not sure I want to be in this relationship anymore; I feel very confused

Couples

  • We often repeat the same arguments without anything ever getting resolved
  • We can't stop reacting to one another and the anger and frustration just escalates
  • Our conversations descend into criticism, blame and attack
  • There has been a build up of resentment and hurt over the years which is difficult to shift
  • When I try to reach out to my partner they interpret it as me 'having a go'
  • We spend days apart sometimes not speaking after a row
  • We lack spontaneity and fun in our relationship and have fallen into a 'rut'
  • We love one another but have differing expectations and beliefs
  • We disagree on whether to have a family or not
  • This is our first experience of living together and we want to do our best